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  • #13537
    Finnian
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    Hello everyone,

    I wanted to open this discussion to get people’s opinions on the issue. On this site and eHarmony, I have met quite a few women. It isn’t that there is a lack of quality and seemingly compatible matches. The problem I have repeatedly experienced though is that the women, I am sure men are just as guilty, seek perfection. They want every box checked on their list, not just a few or most.

    To me at least that means they’ll never find someone. Sure, people say not to settle, but not settling doesn’t mean a fully checked list. It means not breaking your boundaries and not giving up on your deal breakers. It doesn’t mean the person has to be perfect. One person’s profile wrote it nicely. In her bio she stated something along the lines of, “We all have baggage. Find the person who’ll help you unpack it.” Thanks to whoever you are for that. It is both compassionate and reasonable. She will find someone for sure.

    Has anyone else experienced this issue? I’d love to get people’s thoughts on it.

    For me I only have two deal breakers, and one is to not be jabbed. I seek a human woman, not some new genetic hybrid. I also would welcome more children, so a “vaccinated” woman isn’t going to work. Just finding unjabbed women is hard enough, but then once they are found they want every box checked. They are seeking the impossible. A part of me thinks those people don’t want a committed relationship. They are not seriously looking, and they must still be packing the baggage, not unpacking it.

    #13579
    Mariena
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    Yes, I think so too.

    There is no perfection, because nobody is perfect and we are all different.
    While we all want the same thing: Being seen, heard, valued, and respected. Feeling loved. Having fun together. Being there for each other.

    I’ve watched a lot of dating series, like Love is Blind, on Netflix. I have seen them all!
    Most people have a perfect image of what a partner should be like.
    Women in particular demand certain behavior from men.
    When a man does not meet a woman’s demands, she often shows very unreasonable behavior towards the man. I often feel sorry for the men.
    Trauma is triggered and most dates leave people with new trauma.

    Love is Blind is more like a trauma-show.

    #13587
    AntiVaxxerConspiracyObserver
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    It does seem like a lot of girls and women are too picky, and yet they take that as a compliment and say they should be, and that men will just take anyone, which is not true.  I am kind of picky I would say, but I am forced in this age to be more picky than I otherwise would be.  I am picky in that I also have a hard line requirement that any woman I may find for a relationship, she can nimot have had any of the covid or flu shots.  And it sucks because the people behind these shots have truely ruined everything.  Makes you want to just give in and not think about or care if anyone else had the shots, because by not compromising it is much lonelier.  Yet I see it as also having the responsibility to maximize my chance of having as healthy as possible children, and because I am one who saw enough of the truth and did not get the shots or tests and it would be like wasting the perception I had, whether God allowed me to see clearly enough or chance or whatever… and that means that the woman I pick must not have any of those injections.  It seems really picky because it is really hard to find someone without the shots and that you have a decent amount in common with and get along with.  And then, I’m a man so I am already at a disadvantage for options to start with.   I prefer no tattoos also, no one obese or much overweight.  No one into witchcraft.  If she doesn’t really do any cooking or baking then at least is willing to learn and help with that, someone who I can get along with and talk with, and is even decently attractive to me, not looking for a super model, and someone who wants to be with me, and accepts at least the most important values and beliefs and views I have even if she doesn’t fully agree, and shares some of the same goals, like having children with no injections ever and raising as healthy as possible for their well being and hopefully their future offspring, and I can only imagine how hard it will be for them but for humanity we have to keep going somehow…  But the biggest thing for me is, don’t have the shots, and then I can make some compromises on things that don’t really matter.  When women are picky though, they have so many things they make to be an essential requirement.  And especially for us non injected, it’s like come on, be logical, there’s not a ton of us ratio wise, if you want Mr. Perfect well you need to be perfect too which you probably are not, and it’s likely going to be someone who is jabbed.  Girls have been brought up on disney fantasies and even the Christian, more right leaning girls and women actually hold some feminist values and beliefs, and things like, they need to be “educated” with degrees, and then use that to get a man that has at least tge same amount if not more.  Make her own money and be independant.  And then find a guy who makes more than her and then he needs to pay for everything and spoil her.  And then of course they all are against prenups and want the government marriage contract because she wants the possibility of being able to leave and divorce for whatever reason, like doesn’t feel in love anymore, and take half of everything and get excessive “child support” and alimony for years and years and make the man work even harder and get nothing in return.

    Oh and back to the degrees, they found in a tinder study, I forget the exact percentage, but it was amazing how much the interest you as a man will gain from women, when you have a masters degree, compared to “only” a bachelors degree.  It was a huge increase in the attention men receive when they have a masters.  Like how is a bachelors degree not enough to satisfy women?  Feminism and government and corporations have both depleted the value of our currency and made all living expenses so high, while lifting up women and putting down men, and trying to get as many women as they can into jobs of every field saying women can do anything men can do, and telling them they should get a bunch of degrees.  Then men have to compete with women for jobs, men can’t support a family out of highschool anymore.  And it was never about making women more independant, it wasn’t for the well being of women.  It was corporate greed wanting nit jusr men but all the women in the work force also, which allowed them to pay less to everyone because there are more people, and that was before the **** ******** ** ********** to multiply that.  And it progressed their agenda of breaking down and decreasing families by blurring gender roles and making women try to become more like men, and to then get all the kids into day care and school and have both parents work so they can brainwash the future generations all the way up through college, and so parents would be too busy and stressed to know what their kids are taking in.  It used to be over 40% I think, of Americans who were married and had a house by age 30, and now it’s close to 10%.  Men and women are worse off and the big companies are richer than ever.  Women want men with at least as many degrees as them, and more money than them.  Instead of simply being happy with being independant and having degrees and money, they want to use that to try to get “better” men, all while men don’t give a crap about what degrees or how much money a woman has, and if anything, it is a turn off because of how so many are.  Their criteria for how they rank men is all screwed up.  And then they go on about there not being Any good men, and that men are mostly losers, that they would rather be alone with a random bear than random average guy in the woods, and that the average woman is somehow way above the average man.  So many women see themselves as smarter and better than men who see college as a scam and debt trap and learned a trade instead of going to college, even if the men earn more money for their work or at least without debt.  It seems to me that men want a relationship more than women do, and that women want a man with some amount of status, popularity, rank and respect, money and education meaning degrees, to show him off to other women and on social media, and for him to provide her with her fantasy wedding and lifestyle, and who will make her feel in love and happy forever.  Which is delusion.  I know not all women are this way.  And maybe even most are not this way.  Seems like a lot though.  And so many women are on instagram and such and they have just seen the best of everything in the world, and so they think the average guy isn’t a 5 out of 10 but more like a 2, while many will rank themselves as 8’s-10’s.  Social media has really messed up people’s perceptions.  They also foumd on tinder that a majority of women find the majority of men to be below average and unattractive, and that like 80% of women were interested in the top 10-20% of guys.

    Anyway.  Compared to a lot of women, I don’t think I’m picky at all but maybe that is subjective.  No shots.  Not obese.  No major tattoos, maybe a small one.  Not a witch or satanist.  Not a total feminist.  Not a pro vaxxer.  Preferably not a single mother with another man’s kids.  We both like each other and get along.  If she can cook that’s fantastic.  Share the important values.  And where it makes some sense to be with each other and can help each other and want to be with each other.  And someone who looks similar to me, like same ethnicity, which is also to maximize chance of best health for kids.

    And we may have to just wait for women to start becoming more realistic and logical and fair.  Hopefully.  When women do start getting more realistic and thinking about having a family and finding a man, it seems to be when they get around age 30, for a lot any way.  I hope I will find someone eventually, and who is younger and not older than me.  I will never compromise on the shots though.  And if any woman reading this wants to say I sound misogynistic, you should know that word means that one hates women in general.  And I don’t hate women.  Otherwise I would not be hopeful to find a woman.  A lot of feminists sound like misandrists however, meaning they hate men.

    #13859
    Mariena
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    True

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