Men with low-effort profiles and approaches

Some men on this site do not upload photos and effectively say nothing about themselves in their written description. Some women tell us they are annoyed by the men’s asymmetric effort.

A blanket ban on profile completeness is a bad idea. Some people avoid photos for legitimate reasons e.g. public-facing jobs. People want to look around before adding more to their profiles. To support privacy, our site includes a private gallery feature that allows you to control who can view your photographs. This is only available to paying members. It is better to include what line of work you are in as opposed to a lack of real detail and vague, generic content.

This problem exists because messaging is cheap and rejection is invisible. Occasionally it works, which reinforces the behaviour.

These men are reducing the experience of everyone on the site. I don’t know how much of a problem this is here, as I’ve only received a small handful of complaints so far. Typically only a tiny proportion of people will take the time to complain.

I don’t know what to suggest, other than to refuse to engage with these people and possibly just block them immediately after a curt message to do better next time. A block button is available on the bottom of every profile. If it is not visible click the circular ^ button.

Dating works best when effort is mutual. Messaging privileges may be restricted for accounts that do not include at least a brief written profile. Free accounts may be deleted.